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How to Become Socially Brave as a Shy Person
Two tips to get courageous socially.
Acceptance is simple when you don’t want to face your fears. Think about career titles. People who don’t grow or get promotions have held the same position for years.
Social anxiety gets thought of as an external problem. It’s the people who surround you or the loud nature of the environment. Yet, withdrawn habits don’t change for long in fresh places and circles.
Except for when you decide to refresh your personality.
You don’t have to be a socially anxious person forever. It’s not a debilitating character trait chained to your ankles for life. Here are two habits to become socially brave despite your shyness.
Extended confidence
Sun Yi is an entrepreneur who founded Night Owls, a Forbes Agency Council. In one of his videos, he talks about being super shy in high school. He couldn’t even raise his hand to get permission to use the bathroom.
One day, he ended up puking on his desk. Why? Because as bad as the stomach virus was on that day, his shyness was more overwhelming.
He overcame his fears when he started a business. He taught clients what he knew. Today, he does videos and podcasts with supreme confidence. His secret? Sun teaches other people what he already knows.
How can you apply this to your life?
Immerse yourself in different situations with friends.
Don’t have friends available for chilling out? Visit places with various levels of crowds. Familiarize yourself with being around others.
Confidence is a bandwidth.
You need an initial base for it to extend into new zones of your life.
Run around like a Sim
We’ve learned to delegate.
It’s such a timesaving trend we don’t realize the crippling effects. Errand delegation makes you interact with people less.
Some people don’t even greet their delivery personnel. They want packages left by the door. Then, they run and grab it when the other person goes away.
